In the Fall issue of get born magazine, we published a list of “Truths” spoken by us, by other moms, overheard at the book club, etc. Truths like, “I regularly drank wine during my pregnancy,” generated some buzz, both good and bad.
Where is the confessional line in the sand? How honest is too honest?
We will print selected answers from your discussion in the Spring issue of get born, as well as give you our response to one vocal critic’s opinion.
Here are some answers to get you started. To see how the spread looked in our Winter issue, you can go to: http://getbornmag.com/2010/01/too-honest/
[Yesterday] the boys and I went into the bathroom at Whole Foods and met a woman who shared that she has 17 year old twin sons. She told me “this is the best time” (meaning having kids the ages of M&R). I said, “Sometimes.” She looked at me as though I was ungrateful and really missing out on something. I felt guilty for being honest. I haven’t been feeling especially fulfilled (or fulfilling) as a mother, for that matter. I would have loved for this woman with older kids to hug me and say – “You know, I remember a few times when it was really hard to be at their beck and call.” But instead, I got the message that having school-aged twin boys was 100% treasure. Honesty…by Keri-MK
Posted by Jenae Huffman Proctor:
I was talking to my step-monster (step-mother) a couple months ago and I was crying while telling her how overwhelmed I had been feeling with two young boys who are always touching, hugging, sitting, nursing and sleeping on me. I thought I was at a breaking point. She looked at me with a very sarcastic grin and voice and said, “Ya, Jenae it must be really tough having so much love all of the time.”
That is exactly what I needed to hear….that is when the guilt stabbed me in the back and I completely shut down.
Sarah Lancaster said:
Older parents only look back on these days so fondly because THEY FORGET ALL THE CRAPPY MOMENTS!!!